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Recently, I took an online personality test which revealed me to be a 60/40 ENTP/ENFP. What does this mean? Well, accepting the limitations of the 70 question test, and according to the Keirsey/Jungian theory of personality, I am more of an Extravert, iNtuitive Perceiver, with almost equal parts Thinker and Feeler. Bleagh. Whatever. At least it didn’t show me to be a bore. Now why isn’t there an equivalent to show if a person is:

interesting / boring,
stylish / fashion victim,
fabulous / doomed to social failure?

Anyhow…to have more insight to who I am, read the following descriptions of ENTPs and ENFPs. They’re actually uncannily accurate (but then so are horoscopes and fortune cookies):

ENTP / ENFP

The way I see it, it’s just another exercise in self-affirmation. Are we such failures at self-awareness that we have to take a multiple-choice questionnaire to tell ourselves who we are? Sad, isn’t it? It’s also another attempt to pigeon-hole everyone into a bunch of categories (in this case, it’s a tad better than the 12 zodiac signs), and generalise everyone accordingly.

ENTP: Extraverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving

ENTPs are inventors, innovators, explorers, entrepreneurs, and visionaries.
ENTPs are always looking over the next horizon, trying to push the edge of
the envelope, and trying to do what other people say can’t be done. What
is — is never good enough. ENTPs have a vision of what could be and a
powerful drive to turn their visions into reality.

ENTPs value progress and change, both in their personal lives and in the
world as a whole. The idea of a static, unchanging life — appealing to some
SJs — is abhorrent to an ENTP. ENTPs are always seeking out new experiences, new ideas, and new achievements. While other types may worry that the world is changing too fast, ENTPs are more likely to be frustrated that the world isn’t changing fast enough — in the direction they want it to move.

Like other NTs, ENTPs tend to have a rational, empirical view of the world
and often have a strong and early interest in science and technology — but
this worldview and these interests are expressed differently in each of the
types.

While an INTP may be content to design a system or even just prove it is
possible to design a system — ENTPs want to design and build the system and see it working with their own eyes. In this way, they resemble INTJs in
their goals — but not in their approach toward achieving those goals. INTJs
tend to work carefully and methodically with a detailed plan of action —
ENTPs are more likely to have bursts of inspiration that are translated into
reality through intermittent periods of extremely intense activity.

ENTPs tend to be sociable — they enjoy interacting with interesting people
and doing interesting things with others. The key word is “interesting”.
ENTPs have a low boredom threshold, and unlike EF-types, they have little
desire to be around other people simply for the sake of being around other
people.

More than other NTs, ENTPs value intense experiences — including emotional
experiences — and are less likely than other NTs to attempt to suppress
their emotions. When ENTPs are up, they’re on top of the world, facing
unlimited possibilities, unbounded horizons, and an exhilarating future.
When ENTPs are down, the universe lacks any redeeming qualities, whatsoever.

ENTPs are risk-takers — flying, skydiving, scuba diving, hang gliding,
mountain climbing, and fast cars all have a strong appeal for ENTPs. Unlike
STP risk-takers, however, ENTPs are less likely to become experts in a
particular activity, and more likely to sample a wide variety of different
experiences.

ENTPs have little respect for rules that fail to serve a useful purpose.
Rules that significantly inhibit the ability to get things done will be
changed, finessed, or simply ignored.

While ENTPs value their personal relationships, they find it easier than some
other types (in particular, NFs and SFJs) to leave those relationships behind.
An ESFJ, for example, might be terrified by the thought of leaving all of
their friends behind and moving alone to a
new city. An ENTP in the same
situation may miss those friends, but at the same time be looking forward to
the new people, new places, new experiences, and new opportunities they
may find in their new environment.


Extraverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving
by Marina Margaret Heiss (mmh0m@poe.acc.virginia.edu)

“Clever” is the word that perhaps describes ENTPs best. The professor who
juggles half a dozen ideas for research papers and grant proposals in his
mind while giving a highly entertaining lecture on an abstruse subject is a
classic example of the type. So is the stand-up comedian whose lampoons
are not only funny, but incisively accurate.

ENTPs are usually verbally as well as cerebrally quick, and generally love to
argue–both for its own sake, and to show off their often-impressive skills.
They tend to have a perverse sense of humor as well, and enjoy playing devil’s
advocate. They sometimes confuse, even inadvertently hurt, those who don’t
understand or accept the concept of argument as a sport.

ENTPs are as innovative and ingenious at problem-solving as they are at
verbal gymnastics; on occasion, however, they manage to outsmart themselves.
This can take the form of getting found out at “sharp practice”–ENTPs have
been known to cut corners without regard to the rules if it’s expedient — or
simply in the collapse of an over-ambitious juggling act. Both at work and
at home, ENTPs are very fond of “toys”–physical or intellectual, the more
sophisticated the better. They tend to tire of these quickly, however, and
move on to new ones.

ENTPs are basically optimists, but in spite of this (perhaps because of it?),
they tend to become extremely petulant about small setbacks and
inconveniences.
(Major setbacks they tend to regard as challenges, and tackle with determin-
ation.) ENTPs have little patience with those they consider wrongheaded or
unintelligent, and show little restraint in demonstrating this. However, they
do tend to be extremely genial, if not charming, when not being harassed by
life in general.

In terms of their relationships with others, ENTPs are capable of bonding
very closely and, initially, suddenly, with their loved ones. Some appear to
be deceptively offhand with their nearest and dearest; others are so demon-
strative that they succeed in shocking co-workers who’ve only seen their
professional side. ENTPs are also good at acquiring friends who are as clever
and entertaining as they are. Aside from those two areas, ENTPs tend to be
oblivious of the rest of humanity, except as an audience — good, bad, or
potential.

Famous ENTPs:

U.S. Presidents:
John Adams
James A. Garfield
Rutherford B. Hayes
Christopher Columbus
Wernher von Braun
Richard Feynman
Arthur C. Clarke
Francis Ford Coppolla
Steven Jobs
Thomas Edison
Lewis Carrol
Sir Winston Churchill
Bill Cosby
Alexander the Great
Confederate General J. E. B. Stuart
Sir Walter Raleigh

Fictional ENTPs:
Indiana Jones
Calvin (of Calvin & Hobbes)
Mercutio, from Romeo and Juliet
‘Q’ (ST-NG)
Bugs Bunny
Wile E. Coyote
Garfield

ENFP: Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving

[The following comes partially from the archetype, but mostly from my own
dealings with ENFPs.]

General: ENFPs are both “idea”-people and “people”-people, who see
everyone and everything as part of an often bizarre cosmic whole. They
want to both help (at least, their *own* definition of “help”) and be
liked and admired by other people, on both an individual and a humani-
tarian level. They are interested in new ideas on principle, but
ultimately discard most of them for one reason or another.

Social/Personal Relationships: ENFPs have a great deal of zany charm,
which can ingratiate them to the more stodgy types in spite of their
unconventionality. They are outgoing, fun, and genuinely like people. As
SOs/mates they are warm, affectionate (lots of PDA), and disconcertingly
spontaneous. However, attention span in relationships can be short; ENFPs
are easily intrigued and distracted by new friends and acquaintances,
forgetting about the older ones for long stretches at a time. Less mature
ENFPs may need to feel they are the center of attention all the time, to
reassure them that everyone thinks they’re a wonderful and fascinating
person.

ENFPs often have strong, if unconvential, convictions on various issues
related to their Cosmic View. They usually try to use their social skills
and contacts to persuade people gently of the rightness of these views;
his sometimes results in their neglecting their nearest and dearest while
flitting around trying to save the world.
Work Environment: ENFPs are pleasant, easygoing, and usually fun to work
ith. They come up with great ideas, and are a major asset in
brainstorming sessions. Followthrough tends to be a problem, however;
they tend to get bored quickly, especially if a newer, more interesting
project comes along. They also tend to be procrastinators, both about
meeting hard deadlines and about performing any small, uninteresting tasks
that they’ve been assigned. ENFPs are at their most useful when working
in a group with a J or two to take up the slack.

ENFPs *hate* bureaucracy, both in principle and in practice; they will
always make a point of launching one of their crusades against some aspect
of it.



Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving
by Joe Butt (jabutt@sacam.oren.ortn.edu)

ENFPs are friendly folks. Most are really enjoyable people. Some of the
most soft-hearted people are ENFPs.

ENFPs have what some call a ‘silly switch.’ They can be intellectual,
serious, all business for a while, but whenever they get the chance,
they flip that switch and become CAPTAIN WILDCHILD, the scourge of the
swimming pool, ticklers par excellence. Sometimes they may even
appear intoxicated when the ‘switch’ is flipped.

One study has shown that ENFPs are significantly overrepresented in
psychodrama. Most have a natural propensity for role-playing and
acting.

ENFPs like to tell funny stories, especially about their friends.
This penchant may be why many are attracted to journalism. I kid one
of my ENFP friends that if I want the sixth fleet to know something,
I’ll just tell him.

ENFPs are global learners. Close enough is satisfactory to the ENFP.
which may unnerve more precise thinking types, especially with such
things as piano practice (“three quarter notes or four … what’s the
difference?”) Amazingly, some ENFPs are adept at exacting disciplines
such as mathematics. Go figure.

Friends are what life is about to ENFPs, moreso even than the other
NFs. They hold up their end of the relationship, sometimes being taken
advantage of by less caring individuals. ENFPs are energized by being
around people. Some have real difficulty being alone, especially on a
regular basis.

One ENFP colleague, a social worker, had such tremendous interpersonal
skills that she put her interviewers at ease during her own job interview.
She had the ability to make strangers feel like old friends.

ENFPs sometimes can be blindsided by their secondary Feeling function.
Hasty decisions based on deeply felt values may boil over with
unpredictable results. More than one ENFP has abruptly quit a job in
such a moment.

Famous ENFPs:
Samuel Clemens (Mark Twain)
Walter Wenchell, radio reporter
Will Rogers, humorist
Ronald Reagan, U.S. President
Theodor “Dr.” Seuss Geisel, children’s author (_The Cat in the Hat_)
Mickey Rooney, actor
Geraldo Rivera
James Dobson, “Focus on the Family”
Andy Rooney, television news commentator
+Paul Harvey, radio announcer
Elizabeth Montgomery, actress (“Bewitched”)
Dom Delouise, actor
Dave Thomas, owner of Wendy’s hamburger chain
Lewis Grizzard, author, newspaper columnist
I. King Jordan, president of Gallaudet University
Robin Williams, actor, comedian (_Dead Poet’s Society_, _Mrs. Doubtfire_)
Dave Coulier (Joey on “Full House”)
Candice Cameron (D.J. ” ” ” )

Fictional:
+ Dr. Doug Ross, _ER_
Balkie (“Perfect Strangers”)
Ariel (_The Little Mermaid_)
Cathy (comic strip character)
“The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air”

(Note from 5 Jan 2007 : Oh dear what do we have here – a personality test. I guess things haven’t changed much in 10 years of blogging. I promise to spare you the agony of reading any more of these kinds of posts…)

Safer Sex – Take the shrink wrap off and have fun

Recently, there were some questions on Signel about safer sex…thought I would include my answer here just for those who might be seeking some information on the topic:

The reason why I will be offering sometimes 2 different answers to the following questions is simple. The ‘official’ answer is what you will most likely read from pamphlets, or get from any government agency. They carry the least liability, and are the ‘safest’ answers as well. HOWEVER, they are also draconian in nature, and very impractical. An analagy would be to take a new couch you just bought from say, Ikea. You don’t want to soil it, you don’t want to spoil it, so you keep it sheathed in its plastic wrap, leave it a corner of the house, and only allow super-special guests to sit on one corner of it when visiting, and then only after a half-hour briefing on proper couch-etiquette. The idea is: If you don’t have sex, you won’t catch HIV. Something like that.

My ‘professional’ answer however, allows you to take the shrink wrap off the couch, and give you not only a few tips on proper cleaning care, but especially ‘Stuart’ secrets on how to PREVENT messy stains, minimise harm, PLUS, some juicy ways to enjoy your new couch in ways you never imagined. However, this would require that you possess:

– a certain level of negotiation skills (sex between adults ideally should be preceded by a certain amount of negotiation),

– a sober mind (sobriety is important…we all get a little more frisky and less safe when caught in the heat of the moment…or are impaired by substances such as alcohol et al)

Alright. Let’s get down to business…..

>>If two people indulge in foreplay, ie. mutual masturbation, kissing, hugging etc, but do NOT indulge in anal or oral sex, is it correct to say that they will not get AIDS?  

AIDS is currently thought of as a result of HIV – the Human Immunodeficiency Virus. While there are theories out there which beg to differ, HIV is currently the best ‘culprit’ we have. HIV is a retro-virus, and it requires to be in a person’s blood stream before it can infect our immune system. Foreplay, such as frottage (rubbing of bodies), massage, kissing, masturbation, etc, WILL not result in the transmission of HIV, and hence not AIDS.

The rule of thumb is this. If there is not exchange of bodily fluids such as semen, vaginal fluids or blood, there will be no transmission of AIDS. Saliva contains some antibodies, but much lower counts of the actual virus, which means that the likelihood of catching HIV from saliva alone would mean you’d have to be drinking several litres of the stuff, and at the same time have severe cuts in your oral cavity, or be foaming in the mouth….you get the idea.

So…bottom line: No exchange of semen/vaginal fluids/blood – no HIV transmission.

BUT let’s say, fluids WERE exchanged….what do we do then? After all, we’re human beings….it’s kinda difficult to have sex without any mingling of our essences…(and a less fun if we don’t)…What is safe, and what is not?

ALWAYS fuck with a rubber. No exceptions, unless you’re in a MONOGAMOUS relationship with someone, and both of you are aware of your HIV negative status. Any contact of pre-come or semen with the anus/rectum is HIGH RISK. No questions about that. The rectal lining is fragile, and anal intercourse is a contact sport. Same goes for vaginal intercourse.

Oral sex…hmm…this is the tricky one. The ‘official’ answer is…if you have to, (oral sex being a prelude to sexual intercourse of course, especially for us Singaporeans) then don a condom….if you minimise contact of semen/pre-come with the oral lining, then you minimise chances of HIV transmission.

HOWEVER, I always add to that, if you DON’t use a condom…then don’t let your partner come in your mouth….and if he does, don’t swallow….and if you do swallow, then…err…rinse your mouth out, gargle, and well, enjoy the rest of it.

Well, the fact of the matter is, oral transmission of HIV MAY have been reported, but these reports have been isolated and spotty. There have been some studies done on oral transmission of HIV, but these studies are faulty and should not be generalised to implicate all oral sex. Will explain under a different note if you want me to explore this. However, consider…if oral sex did indeed transmit HIV, then all of San Francisco, much of New York, and countless other people would be dead by now. I don’t mean to trivialise oral transmission, or to even say it is impossible, but it’s a small (and I consider negligible) risk…one that is further minimised if your partner’s sexual history is not extremely suspect, if your exposures are kept to a minimum (of course, the more times you are exposed to the risk, the more risk you carry), etc.

Same goes for the women. If you have to, use a dental dam…avoid oral sex during certain times of the month (blood carries a higher concentration of virus)…and everything in moderation. But since I am not familiar with lesbian sex, this is the limit of my advice in this area….yikes…someone else more knowledgeable help me out here…

Theoretically, oral transmission is possible. After all, there are viruses in the semen/vaginal fluids, and you ARE ingesting these fluids. Hoever, taking an intact gastro-intestinal tract into consideration, these organs of ours are extremely hardy and have seen countless numbers of yucky things we shove down our throats (including Macdonalds and Singapore air…etc). They are used to keeping foreign particles out. Occassionally, something overwhelms them (as in the case of Indonesian roadside stall food), and our bodies protest by making us dump the offending particles in the Kallang River…but otherwise, few things that were not meant to get through, do eventually get through. Including many bacteria and viruses. Some bugs make a living by infecting people through the oral route, and HIV is thankfully NOT one of them. Credit our gastric juices, gastric lining, saliva enzymes, whatever.

>>Also, I think some kinds of sexual diseases like herpes and warts can spread through the kind of casual sexual contact as described above (excluding anal and oral sex), can someone please enlighten me on how these “other” STDs are spread and their dangers? 

STD’s…ok. The most common STD’s include gonorrhea, syphillis, herpes, warts, pubic lice, chlamydia, etc. It would take quite a long essay to go into each and everyone of them. Most of the STDs are rather evident if you examine the genital area of your partner under reasonable light (so those at Fort Rd, well, you place yourselves at higher risk…). Any sores, discolorations, discharges, foul smell, etc, would typically alert you to such a possibility. If your partner can’t help but constantly scratch their pubes, that’s another clue…Be sure to look at your partner’s genital area carefully…if it looks nice and squeeky clean, you’re probably OK (with the exception of herpes…which is still transmissible even when there are no evident sores…best thing is to ask, never assume). If you are foolish enough to rub your skin against these sores, then well, go visit your friendly STD doc soon to get a jab (yes, most are curable, again with the exception of herpes) because that’s how they are spread, by contact with infected skin. No fluids to transmit.

Let’s not also forget those rimmers out there. You place yourself at high risk for Hepatitis A…so either get yourself a Hep A vaccination, as well as clean your partner’s butt out really well (hey, a mutual romp in the shower qualifies as fantastic foreplay, if you ask me) before you start licking sphincter, OR use a dental dam or plastic wrap stretched across the cave before you go spelunking.

>>It seems that we are so often warned on how AIDS is spread and how we should protect from AIDS, but we have neglected to warn people also the dangers of other STDs which can ruin people’s lifes too. I hope that we can take this chance to inform the people on Signel about other dangerous STDs that one can get *EVEN IF ONE PRACTICES SAFE SEX* (ie. with a condom). 

Well, good point and no. Yes, STDs are often neglected…in part because they are curable for the most part, and in comparison with AIDS, they are at best (or worst) a minor inconvenience when treated. STDs occur in high frequency amongst people who are at high risk for HIV, or HIV-positive persons. Why? Because risky behaviour for AIDS is the same (more or less) as risky behaviour for STDs. Even if the methods of transmission are different. However, condoms DO DO DO reduce the risk of STDs…hey, you’re putting a piece of rubber over the skin which is going to be rubbing the most against your partner’s so why shouldn’t it protect you? However, you forget that MOST of your body’s not covered…so act accordingly.

>>Let’s dispell the myth of “safe” sex. No form of sexual contact is safe. Nothing beats good old fashion love and commitment. But sadly, even that is a myth in the world today.  

Au contraire…..lots of sex is safe. And safe sex can be lots (and loads) of fun. But to a very practical extent, purely safe sex can find yourself running out of ideas pretty quickly, and yearning to get back to the good ol’ in-out-in-out….so, the important thing IS….SAFER SEX. Meaning, risk management, harm prevention/minimisation…remember the couch analogy?

First thing, and the MOST important thing you could do to help yourself, is to get yourself tested. If you know you’re HIV positive, you can get treatment ASAP…therapies which for now look extremely promising, and could perhaps prevent you from developing AIDS. If you’re HIV negative, then you know what to do to stay that way. Action for AIDS has an anonymous test site on Saturdays between 1-4pm – no names taken absolutely…at the Kelantan Rd Clinic (also known as the DSC Clinic)…

If your sex partner knows their HIV status as well, then you could proceed to more adventurous forms of sex. If you’re not monogamous, then of course I would never advocate not using condoms. But knowing you are having sex with someone who is probably *still* HIV negative is hell of a lot less risky than having someone who does not know if they are HIV positive of negative (or even “proabably HIV negative” is not good enough)…

The next thing is something that few people do, but everyone should. Negotiate amongst yourselves, what you feel is risky, what you feel is a calculated risk you’re BOTH willing to take, and what is absolutley no problem at all. Why more don’t do this is simple…we don’t like to talk about sex…a conventionally taboo topic. Yet, you will find that talking about sex will take a load of your back…and you will find it strangely liberating to be able to discuss what you want to do to this dreamboat you found at Raffles City (or wherever). This way, there are no surprises, both partners respect one anothers sexual wishes, and risk is managed in that way.

Don’t do anything you are not comfortable with, but at the same time, GET THE FACTS so that you can make an educated decision. No one can force you to do anything you don’t want to…it’s your body…you decide what risks you want to take. Some find high-risk behaviour more fun, some find it petrifying. Whatever suits you. Your body is ultimately YOUR responsibility. Don’t go on hearsay…GET THE FACTS.

If you engage in sex with multiple partners, or have multiple exposures to risky sex, get yourself tested periodically (ostensibly every six months), just to be sure you’re still where you want to be. If you have one or two or three partners, and you deem the risks to be small, let’s save our precious medical resources. HIV is not an easy thing to catch. It really isn’t. In a way, you have to try pretty hard to get it…before you will.

SO…bearing that in mind…go out there, have safe and responsible sex! 



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